Customers don’t build loyalty around free stuff nearly as much as brands THINK they do.

Most loyalty programs still operate like corporate junk drawers.

Collect enough points and eventually you can redeem them for a branded coffee mug (Hooray!), tote bag, discount coupon, or some blandly upgraded version of the thing you already bought.

And then companies wonder why engagement sucks.

A new study analyzing experiential versus material rewards found that experiences consistently drove stronger customer engagement, including more spending, more redemptions, stronger loyalty, and more word of mouth.

What’s especially worth knowing is WHY.

The researchers found experiential rewards created stronger “self-connection.”

In other words, folks psychologically tied the experience more closely to who they are.

That matters a ton.

A branded beach towel might be useful. A cooking class, concert ticket, ski pass, beauty session, or behind-the-scenes event becomes part of somebody’s memory and identity.

One gets tossed in a closet as a spare, or added to the Goodwill donation box.

The other becomes “something awesome I did.”

And here’s the part loyalty program managers ought to note: even small experiences often performed as well as large material rewards.

That flips the economics on their arse.

A relatively low-budget experience can create way more emotional engagement than a really expensive physical reward.

You can already see smart companies leaning into this.

Sephora gifts beauty classes and custom makeovers. Delta and Aeroplan let members cash in points for vacation experiences. And Hilton offers heart-pumping escapes like ski access and hot-air balloon rides.

These companies are pole-vaulting loyalty up over transactions, into identity reinforcement.

In I Need That, I talk about products becoming psychologically attached to routines, self-image, rituals, and emotionally meaningful moments. Loyalty programs usually focus too hard on value extraction while underestimating human emotions.

That there’s the opportunity.

A good loyalty program shouldn’t feel like collecting airline pretzels in a digital spreadsheet.

It ought to make customers feel a bit closer to the kind of person they fantasize of becoming.

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